Tuesday, October 25, 2016

LPT Request: How to stop feeling like I'm bothering people by being friendly?

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I'm at university, and I try to strike up conversations in extracurriculars or in the hallway with familiar faces, like "You're in my x class, right?" Or if we're familiar, "How'd you feel about that test/assignment?" Normal stuff, no?

The problem is I have crippling anxiety about this and either feel like a creep (especially when someone may not remember me at first) or like I'm bothering them, even though the majority of these interactions go fairly well.

I've recently gotten close with a professor in a mentor type of relationship and sometimes I feel like I might be bothering him with my presence but I don't know why. (From what I can tell, he doesn't mind a bit, or he's just really polite and good at not showing that it's bothering him.)

I even have an acquaintance from a class I took a few semesters ago that I sometimes get coffee with, but I always feel weird when it's my turn to ask her for coffee, and I always see her on campus and I'm afraid she'll think I'm like following her around.

I know this is weird, and most probably all in my head, but I can't shake this feeling no matter how hard I try. I've had friends before, and I've always felt self conscious around others, but never on this level. I'd really appreciate some help.

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